Love is…

Last year (2018) at the boutique I thought it would be fun to do a Valentine’s promotion featuring our guests and what they thought love was. In all honesty when I came up with the idea then it was really just a marketing idea–I had no idea the inspiration that would come from it. It was a rather small group of people but hearing what they had to say really sparked something in me.

So we repeated the idea this year–and once again our guests did not disappoint. This time we asked them to narrow it down to one word (that’s harder than you think–try it now–I bet you come up with more than one word!)…

Now, I’m no expert… but here is what I know to be true: Love comes in many different shapes and sizes, when you ask someone what love means to them their response is always different based on WHO/WHAT they are thinking about (some people think about their dogs, food, kids–its not always significant other based), Valentines Day is NOT a happy day for everyone–there’s almost as much hate as their is love going around on this day, Most women we talk to love others more than themselves (we seriously need to work on this self love thing), Love isn’t material things like cards or flowers (although these things are nice), everyone speaks a different love language (great book BTW) AND chocolate is delicious (OK i just had to throw that in–it is a Valentines staple LOL)

I also know this to be true: love is messy. You know that bible verse (1 Corinthians 3:4) that people quote all the time that says “love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud, it does not dishonor others, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong…” Well. At the risk of upsetting some who believe this to be very true let me just say that in my years of working with the public and listening to peoples stories–and working through my own relationships–that verse looks pretty and sounds wonderful but is far from reality. Humans aren’t perfect and neither is love. It’s not always patient. It’s not always kind. It doesn’t always persevere–many who go separate ways still love each other in one way or another.

We wanted to cover love again this year but we know the above to be true and we are also HUGE advocates for all women and not all women are in a relationship so… we thought we would take the angle of Loving yourself–something quite frankly we can all do better at. Ask yourself these things….Are you always patient with yourself? Are you always kind to yourself? What do you love the most about yourself? Is that last question hard to answer? We added a second part to the photo’s this year and we asked our guests that last question on camera. Their responses–and pauses–gave me goosebumps.

The video is below for your viewing pleasure.

I leave you with this…

Don’t be sad if you don’t have a Valentine tomorrow. Don’t be upset with yourself if you weren’t patient with your loved one recently. Don’t stress if your significant other didn’t get you flowers. Love yourself a little more this year. Be more patient with yourself. Find something you love about yourself and let that love shine.


34 thoughts on “Love is…”

  1. I absolutely love this! I can relate to this so much. I loved being a part of this last year and this year. I know that I am too hard on myself and sometimes I feel I am more patient with others than myself. I am a work in progress.

  2. I love your heart, spirit, demeanor, attitude and watching your journey. Thank you for putting a smile on not just my face but everyone you come in contact with! Hope you have a fabulous valentines day!!!

  3. I love this video, if I could change my answer it would be my positive spirit. No matter how bad things may seem, they will always get better and you will get thru it. ❤️

  4. You Heather are a very special person and I love that I get to be a part of your life through the groupies page!!! Thank you for being you!!

  5. This is really spot on. It’s hard sometimes to love ourselves because as women, we are a helpmate. That’s why God created us, to help man. As I get older, it’s easier to love myself because all the kids are grown & I have more time to work on me first. Heather thanks for sharing & being so transparent in your struggles. We are right there with you. It’s great to have s community where honesty is respected!xxoo

  6. I am glad I got to be a part of this. It’s eye opening to see how much pause was needed for many of us to answer this question. We all need to love ourselves more. It just goes to show there is still plenty of room to learn and grow.

  7. Love is loving your self through the highs and the lows. If we could learn to be able to to do this then what would the leave, peace perhaps. With your take on this subject maybe a few more ladies will learn to love them self.

  8. Heather you just keep amazing me. You are fabulous at writing a blog too. You are the most inspiring person I know. Thanks for being you. Happy Valentine’s Day!!

  9. You are so grest at putting your thoughts in writing and you are so honest and positive. I love how you are confident and how you spend so much time at making others feel good about themselves. I wish I had your confidence about myself. Thank you for beibg, well for being your beautiful self.

  10. Heather, you are the best Valentine for anyone ❤. I loved being a part of the video this year, which is definitely “outside the box” for me! I think being a woman/lady, we are taught to be a caregiver for our families and never take too much time for US! You have really stressed to all of us how important we are, so we all need to learn how to take time for ourselves! Thanks for the reminder 😊

  11. Love this. We are all always harder on ourselves. It’s always so hard to answer what we love about ourselves but so quick to answer what we don’t like.

  12. I absolutely LOVE this project you did & how you ask us the difficult question about what we love about ourselves. I can tell you SO many things I love about my family, friebds, etc…but to say something about myself was not easy. Thank you for always helping & encouraging us to accept ourselves & LOVE ourselves. You are an inspiration to all of us. 💜. You are loved by all of us groupies. 😘

  13. Love is like God a circle whose center is everywhere and circumference is nowhere. Voltaire.
    Learn to love like that.

  14. ❤️ this! I’m still trying to think of how I would answer. Yikes! So easy to think of all the things I love about others!

  15. I can come up with “Love is….” for so many other things besides myself. Its just really hard. 2019 I will work on myself. 🙂

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